Pre-note: The post that you’re about to read below is an old blog post where I was asking my readers about the best birthday gift for girls. And quite frankly the post was done during my college days which means its a very old post by now. But still the entire goal on this post was to survey my readers on what they think are the best birthday gifts for girls or more specifically, the best birthday gift for a girl I care a lot. 🙂
So I have a big crush in school (I am in 3rd year college) and some people call it “genuine attraction” because I have been having it for the past 3 years and I still admire and love her up to today. I am a very shy guy as in really shy. I do have a lot of friends but I don’t speak much to those people whose first name is unknown to me! 🙂 Well back to that girl, I haven’t really even talked much to her a lot because of again me feeling coward shy. But then I think I have kinda given her some gifts anonymously way back 2 years ago.
For me it doesn’t really mean anything if she knows me or not or blah blah. But then here’s the time I have realized I should give it this time personally. I have planned for this way back June and well you can say I am kidding but my initial fund that I planned for a gift for her before is like $100 – $150 and what I am planning to buy is a ring! 🙂 LOL, it symbolizes commitment! But well long story short, here comes October and I paid all my bills and Adwords and hosting (of many sites) and my debt to my mom! So, the only money I can spend is about $20-$50! I know its ridiculous for some of you but its still a big value here in Philippines. 😉
Now with less than 3 days, what’s the gift you think I should take a look at for the girl I love? I’ve dabbled with pendants, bracelets, chocolate cakes and etc. A stuff toy is the worst thing that you could ever say here so please!
A great friend told me that when I give a gift I should make sure it has value not only romantically but in real life. I’m w8ing for your take. 😉
Don’t give her anything. If you fell this girl doesn’t know who you are the best thing you could do it ask her out and get to know her. Take her to dinner and go out and talk afterward.
She would much rather get to know you than get a present from you. And if that doesn’t happen to be the case then she doesn’t deserve either.
Adam
Melvin Reply:
October 14th, 2008 at 9:43 am
The girl knows me by now because someone told her that I think couple of months back. But I guess you’re right we should know each other well first. But… I just can’t do it. Again Im not pretty much used into this. Maybe after I give the gift, talk some stuffs, get to know and work my way up! 😉
kouji Reply:
October 18th, 2008 at 8:11 pm
try the dinner thing, man. a gift might make things too complicated, way too soon. :O
If she blogs, give her 5000 entre card credit (and not your credit card :lol:)
Just kidding man… Girls love chocolates, teddybears, roses etc. Those are the standard gifts! But try to be different! Why not gift her a domain and quick setup WP blog itself?
Melvin Reply:
October 14th, 2008 at 9:46 am
Hahah, thats a joke. She doesn’t know anything about blogs and everything online that makes money. Thnx anyways
Mikkel "DaneBlogger" Juhl Reply:
December 9th, 2009 at 5:03 pm
Give her some chocolate. Dark should make them horny.. At least that’s what I’ve heard…
Know it’s late but, wtf?
The ‘give her Entrecard credits’ suggestion made me LOL… 😀
I’d suggest personalized jewelry, should be avaialable fairly cheap and chicks tend to like it. 🙂
Hehe, Entrecard credits 😆
I could give give you a free ad spot on my blog, she might like that 😛
Or you could just use Jason’s, Adam’s, and Ajith’s suggestions.
Dude, first send her a facebook gift before you decide to “propose” her with a ring. Yes, ring symbolizes commitment for a reason!
Maybe I got it wrong, but you are not that close to her although you know her for years. First, try to give her a clue what she means to you. Ask her for a date, go to the coffee together.
Melvin Reply:
October 14th, 2008 at 9:48 am
Thanks man, worth-noting! 😉 Yeah ring really symbolizes commitment but I dont know how to really explain it. Maybe it also says something about me being genuine and not just like those fly by night guys. or what do you think?
Hey Melvin- It’s so sweet that you want to get her a present. I agree with some of the other comments, though. Why not take her on a fun date? That way you guys can spend some quality time together. If you’d really prefer to get her a present though, does she have a favorite band? Get two tickets to a concert- and only give her one!
Melvin Reply:
October 14th, 2008 at 9:54 am
I dont think she has any interest in bands. The main thing with taking on a date is that you have to have a personal car (which I dont have) and in “reality” it should be a given. I never had any dates before and well I think taking someone I like out is really a thing I almost cannot do (you can say Im coward again ;-))
Thanks for your 2 cents Dina
MLDina Reply:
October 16th, 2008 at 10:35 pm
Oh I don’t think you’re a coward at all! Why not cook her dinner at your house? I love the suggestion below as well though. Show her your blog! How many girls can say they have people from all over the world thinking of great, personal gifts? Probably not many!
Melvin Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Hahah.. Thanks for the encouragement. I have just talked to her and then our conversation kinda took about 20 minutes. Yes you’re right, probably not many. 😉
Does she know that you make money(lotz??) thro blogging.Best of luck and I think you have gkfted her by wiriting a blog on her
Melvin Reply:
October 15th, 2008 at 1:05 am
Haha.. she never know anything about my online ventures.
Just tell your feelings to her and present her with some nice roses. I haven’t been out much with girls but I feel that giving a rose is a good gift. All the best! 😀
A nice bunch of roses and a ring will do the job…we would like to how it goes….i mean the gift and did she like what you gave her 🙂
Get her a Chocolate cake as well …does she like chocolates
A friendly birthday card, maybe? For me it is still one of the best presents you can give to someone who doesn’t know you by heart. Flowers, chocolates and all things too sweet should be put on hold at this time, I think those things can go when already know each other very well. Hope that gives you an idea, good luck! 🙂
Melvin Reply:
October 16th, 2008 at 9:45 am
I always give out cards to birthdays and this one is no exception. Thanks for the tip though 😉
Suggestion: buy her a Ferrero Rocher and something that she can display in her own room (teddy bear) so that before she sleeps, she would remind that teddy bear of you. 🙂
And another thing: You should have this bonding time together, share each other’s stories and so on.
The ring thing? It’s like you’re going to marry her. lolz.
Melvin Reply:
October 16th, 2008 at 9:46 am
Like what I’ve said stuff toys are never an option to me. Hehhe. Yeah, I know a ring sounds ridiculous..
I definatly wouldnt go with anything like a ring or jewlery, as you should really know a person before you get them things like that – if you dont it can come off a little…well, creepy.
Just get her a nice birthday card, saying ‘I heard it was your birthday’. Anything more than that and she might feel a little imposed upon, and possibly weirded out. Make sure just to keep it simple in the card as well, just ‘happy birthday, best wishes’ etc. If she asks why you got her a card (I presuming she might as from what I read you don’t exactly speak to each other) you can come off causal and say you had one spare – then throw in that it was a good way to come talk to her.
If you come across too ‘needy’ or start giving her gifts even before you’ve started dating, you’ll be appearing too ‘easy’ and she will lose interest.
Melvin Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
Hehe man, I have sent her a card too. And actually we had a very nice conversation w/each other and thats probably the best part of it. I gave her a necklace but I think I never made myself look like “mainstream guys” who are going too easy which in reality is really I am not..
Melvin, don’t give her nothing, specially rings and that kind of stuff. you will drive her away.
Just get to know her. When you pass through her just say hello and keep your path. Make her wonder. And whenyou get to know her a bit be cocky and funny. Get relaxed, casual, but alwaysbe cocky and funny. IF she touches in your hand or sholder then you say something like “you know that for touching me there it will cost you $10” lol
I know it is easy to sa, but try searching on google for david angelo and signup is newsletter. He is like the guru of this stuff
One of the main gifts you could provide her would be your time as it is only as valuable as you deem it. She will recognize its value when you present it with proper esteem.
haha.. awesome melvin.. Great to convey u r love feeling thru blog 😀
Anyway I would say u to give her a KISS … Say her that you love and don’t give anonymous proxy gifts to her.. Drive her somewhere and show the feelings in u r eyes..
A story like this is going on with me as I have entered 1st year of engineering college and this is kinda fun 😀 A kiss is priceless and shows true value of your love… Would love to see her pic buddy!
Also hire some fake frnds who will try to teae u r GF.. then you will come into the scene and blast those fake frnds.. You will emerge as hero infront of that girl 😀 hehe.. would love to see how your love story proceeds.. Do keep me updated!
Melvin Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
This one made me laugh real hard dude. Hahha… Thanks anyway! 🙂
Just divert her to your blog….specifically this post 🙂
May she get the meaning of this post! Very valuable!
Hey! its me! your girl.. =) hahah kiddin, congrats dude, you did it. ^_^ hahah, i saw her wearing your gift.. =)
Melvin Reply:
October 17th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
Hey boy! Hahaha, never ever mention my blog to her please… 😉
How was the date..can you post a blog on what happened 🙂
Melvin Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 10:33 am
Haha.. I dont get why you were thinking it was a date.. i mean it was just a simple spontaneous conversation at one side of the school… a lengthy talk.. 😉
Oops, I’m late so how did it go and what did you get for her? You know what a ring is never a good idea for a birthday gift as it may send the wrong signal that you are in a hurry….
Personally I think anything that is made by you irregardless of its value is worth more than anything to a girl. If I were you, I create a personal site for her and launch it on her birthday but then it’s too late now…
Yan
Melvin Reply:
October 21st, 2008 at 10:36 am
Hehe.. 😉 Yan I understood why a ring is never a right thing. But you know the other side of a ring says something about me being a genuine guy.. or maybe its just what I think. 😉
Shanker Bakshi Reply:
December 12th, 2008 at 11:05 am
what an idea YAN, a personal site on her birthday. ( you hardly see anything beyond sites and blogs ) god bless you. 🙂
hahaha…what did you gave her? a necklace??? I haven’t heard yet anything about you yet. How was the date??? 😛
I’m excited..tell me 😛
Well, depending who it’s coming from. Anything from a bag,holiday package and a meal from a loved one is great.In the past I’ve got perfumes ,tired of them now..boring!!
Most girls would appreciate any gift given to them (especially if it came from a special person). I’d go for a bracelet. Don’t buy a ring unless you’re ready to take your friendship into the next level and unless you’re sure that the girl is also into you. Try to sense what kind of person the girl is. If she’s the sentimental type, then give her a personalized card or a cd with a compilation of her fave songs. If she’s the sporty type, then you can give her a bag, sports mug, headband, etc. If she’s the romantic type, take her out on a dinner and then give her the gift (which can be anything since the dinner will be the plus point). Give her flowers. Girls definitely loves flowers! Also, don’t buy too expensive gift so she won’t think you’re buying her unless she’s the high-maintenance type of lady who would love something with a good brand.
Heh, we dont have any girls in my class at college, if we did i think everyone would go crazy :/, cool post though hope everything works out well =D
Heh. we dont have any girls in my class at college but if we did i think everyone would go crazy. :D! Cool post hope everything works out well.
i hope it went good. if i were you i would just ask her on the date if she accepts at the end of the date pull out earings,bracelet or a necklace and give it to her..
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I had gifted my wife a Hyundai car for her last birthday. It was her first birthday after her wedding and I wanted to make it special 🙂
hello melvin..
it’s been like two years since you’ve made this post, I’ve ariived here after checking out:https://www.melvinblog.com/2010/06/type-blog-post-traffic/
anyways, How are you and the girl you like now??? any news? LOL!
if I had read this post of yours way back since 2008, I would have had adviced you to not spend $20-$50 for a gift but instead, My advice would be Create a Video gift together with a letter!!!
sounds very corny but it surely works. I’ve done it with my girlfriend about 2 years ago also. (who is now my wife btw).. you can check the video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04iivJEIVas
after making that gift, She loved me Forever!!! lols.
anyways, Goodluck! 🙂
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