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The Best Birthday Gift For the Girl I Care

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So a little offtopic post here. 🙂 Post Alert: Remember this is a blog owned by a teenager, so love stories are just fine as posts. 😉

Last year, I also did have this post asking for the best birthday gift which yielded a lot of responses from people. Since most of the commenters back before were not commenting now (or have stop reading this blog), I just thought I would again reiterate the scenario. So way back in early years in college I used to have a big crush on someone in our school. What I know is it’s more than infatuation and being attracted because I have to dwell with the feelings that I have for her for up to now (3+ years)..

I started giving gifts to her since first year without me revealing my personality and she not really knowing I exist. We just started to get to know each other and eventually talk more during our 3rd year (last year). Much to my dismay,  that was her last year in school as she was a graduating student then (very short time. 🙁 ). And yes I was able to say goodbye but then its sad because 1: you know you’re not going to meet anymore (debatable) 2: as I’ve said we’re just starting to build our friendship back then. I really miss her so much and yes its love, puppy love maybe.

So 8 days from now is her birthday. I don’t know, but over the years I really don’t think I make great decisions on what is the right gift . You get my situation? The girl is not my girlfriend (I never had any gf’s before), I’m not courting here nor  dating her, we’re good friends and I know I want more than just that, lols. And to add I am really a shy person and everytime we talk face to face I still have that nagging pressure that I always feel.

I always thought a ring would do it, but people around me say its not a good one and I respect their opinion a lot. I want to be romantic but not too much. Confused? I am as well. So here I am taking any suggestions you guys/girls can suggest. I believe most of you here are teens like me and if not (means you’re old), Im sure you have gone with this “cheesy” situation as well, Hahahaha… Fire away your take.

and yes taking her out for a dinner is a big dream.

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  1. Does it have to be a gift?

    Why not take her out for a romantic meal, that way you can really get to be yourself in front of her.

    If all goes well you can tell her about how you feel, then she can make up her mind as to what happens next!
    .-= David Shaw´s last blog ..Casual Bloggers Are More Popular =-.

  2. Take her out, make sure it’s just you and her.

    Ask for the casual date politely.. I am sure as she is your classmate for three years, she would respond with a ‘YES’. Be more fun loving and don’t be pressurized as well. Stay cool. Keep on saying yourself stuffs like ‘not a big deal’.. ‘I can do this’..’I am the best’

    Be ready for the change..Yeah, Be ready for the change, my friend. Express your feelings to her and be that ‘Man’ she actually dreams of..

    Once you’ve impressed her, it’s only a matter of time that you will be a totally energetic and transformed man!

    Good luck, mate 😉
    .-= Rockstar Sid´s last blog ..Convert, Create PSP Mp4 Movie Videos With Vuze =-.

  3. Haha I like these kind of posts.

    Let me give you 1 sugesstion do NOT give her a ring, she’ll probably get freaked out. I’ve seen a friend of mine who’s done that before and this girl who he gave the ring to got totally freaked out because it gives the wrong impression, it’s like saying MARRY ME, but she never phoned or talked to him anymore. I actually found it kind of funny lol, but still sad.

    But anyway, hmmm this is going to be a mission lol, I think doing something romantic will do, something like setting up a own romantic dinner that you’ve made your self or buying her flowers, i know flowers are a bit orignal, but they do seem to work some way or another. You could maybe take her out on a shoppingspree.

    Just stay yourself and don’t try acting like a hero lol. Best thing to do is just be yourself and if you do take her out just make sure she has a wonderful day and at the end of the day just express your feelings, another suggestion that has actually worked for me is to try going somewhere with a beutiful view, like on top of a mountain where you can see the whole city or to a beach where you can see the beutiful sea. Go there at night.

    Make her feel special.

    Good luck Melvin.

    Let us know what happend.
    .-= Teen Blogger´s last blog ..Where To Find Hot Sizzling Profitable Niches =-.

  5. Hi Melvin!
    I am definitely not in my teens. But all I can say is that none of your readers are gonna know her like you do. It’s all about how you guys relate, think & feel about each other.
    Don’t let anybody tell you how to go about it. Just follow your heart & you will know.
    All the best!
    P.S. : Though you might be shy & all. But you are gifted with words. Use your strengths to your advantage, man!
    Let us know what happened, ok?
    .-= Chris Peterson´s last blog ..Do You Possess A Razor Sharp Tongue? =-.

  6. that would be the best way if she can come out wid u .. by this you will b able to express yourself more in front of her and also she will get to know that u have some interest in her, about your feelings for her as well

  7. I agree don’t give her a ring, but that’s mainly as you don’t know ring sizes and things.

    What does she like? What has she always wanted? Is there somewhere near your home that she would love to go, if so offer to take here?

    It’s about trying to show here that you have been paying attention, I think. If you can think of something that appeals to something that she longs for she will see that you are a caring soul and she may love you more as a friend… or more as something else.

    Please let us know how it goes.

    PS. Don’t let her leaving school mean the end of you seeing her. Travel if you have to. Friends and loved ones are worth going out of your way for.
    .-= Forest´s last blog ..Musically Motivated Monday – Beautiful World =-.

  8. I would say, just find something that has meaning to you two. I remember giving my then girlfriend (now wife) a gift once which was just a novel that meant something to both of us – but I went though it and high lighted different parts and added my thoughts on sticky notes throughout.

    Girls would rather something thoughtful, than something meaningless that cost something.

  10. Hey Melvin, I am well over the teenage years, but because of that maybe I might have some wisdom to give you. Do not go buying rings, flowers, or taking her to a fancy restaurant! All of these things are saying romance & love to her, and you don’t want to send that message yet especially if you’ve been sending her gifts without her knowing who was sending them. I believe that’s what you said at the beginning of your post. The best thing you could do would be to ask her out maybe to a museum or the college hang out and just talk and get to know each other, maybe like Tom said bring a book that you can ask her if she’s read it or ask her what she is reading, keep it smooth and take it very slowly and get to know her at the same time letting her see what you are all about. Have fun and don’t make it more than what it is. Good luck. jj
    .-= jj-momscashblog´s last blog ..Malware Virus & What You Should Know About It =-.

  11. I know something that you might like. Why not give her a stuff toy with a ribbon. Put a message on the ribbon. A poem or an essay. A summary perhaps and put a link to your blog for the continuation of the poem. We are bloggers so do what you do best. ..writing!

    OR

    Write a list of what you think or feel about her. We bloggers love lists. If you’re going to give a gift for someone special, do it the blogger’s way which you truly are.

    Goodluck pare ko!
    .-= nathan´s last blog ..What Compels You To Write? =-.

  14. Well yea, you’re right. But obviously it’s tough for both of our situation. She’s currently working and I am so much whacked up attending the strenuous internship. I mean not even a weekend could probably do it. 🙁

    Anyhow thanks for the tip!

  15. hahha, those are really inspiring words dude and I appreciate it. 😀 Im doing things slowly and it would just be a matter of time to know if Im doing it right or not.

  16. LOL, hahah man I assume you’re almost the same with my age so you can connect with me.

    well I did give her flowers but I think your suggestion of going to the tough of the mountain is a lil tough for me.. 😉

  17. Thanks for your tip, it actually makes sense a lot for me. 🙂 I think all of my decisions are based on what I feel, I mean what my heart feels, lols..

  18. Haha, thanks man! That’s the big reason why I’ve never really pursued the ring thing. It’s because of the finger sizes and stuffs.

    And yes, I never let the end of school end everything for us. 😀

  24. If she is a blogger gift her with a review on your blog and if she isn’t a blogger build a blog and gift it to her, no gift is remembered forever, other than something that generates income everytime.